You have to give David Lapp credit. The 22-year-old young man knew what he wanted, and he got her — a wife. It wasn’t easy. When David and his wife Amber told her father that they wanted to get married (at ages 22 and 21, respectively), he hit the ceiling.

Thankfully, Amber’s father changed his mind. The couple is now happily married, and David has told the whole world about it in an op-ed column for The Wall Street Journal. In the column, he deals head-on with objections to young marriage…

From David’s words:

“First, let’s take a closer look at that term “early marriage.” While it’s true that teenage marriages are a significant predictor of divorce, it turns out that marriages of people in their early to mid-20s are not nearly as much at risk. According to a 2002 report from the Centers for Disease Control, 48% of people who enter marriage when under age 18, and 40% of 18- and 19-year-olds, will eventually divorce. But only 29% of those who get married at age 20 to 24 will eventually divorce—very similar to the 24% of the 25-and-older cohort. In fact, Hispanics who marry between the ages of 20 and 24 actually have a greater likelihood of marital success (31% chance of divorce) than those who first marry at age 25 and older (36% chance of divorce).”

Add to this the fact that other studies indicate that couples who marry between the ages of 22 and 25 “went on to experience the happiest marriages.” You don’t hear about that on “Oprah.”

Read the full article on Crosswalk (click here).

The view of when is too young to marry often depends on where you live in the country. In cities like New York, Chicago, and Los Angeles, there is a often a culture of pushing people to wait and explore life. It is good to see strong Christian couples standing up and pointing out that we can live in Christ against this media driven culture of living for the short-term. That is not to say that one must marry. It is simply to say that the cultural push to not marry until you have “experienced life” is not the only choice.

Authentic Christian Living team

Authentic Christian Living team

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2 Comments on Did He Get Married Too Young?

  1. Laura says:

    No way!! I think that’s about the perfect age! Prime of their lives, ready to live & learn TOGETHER. I married my husband when I was 21, he was 23. I would never change it for the world! We now have 5 children together, and are going on our 8th year together. You know, the more we learn about each other, the stronger our marriage gets – it’s been wonderful!! I’m all for them getting married in their early 20s!!

  2. Elana says:

    My husband and I got married young. He was 18 and I just turned 19 and we had a 3 month old daughter. We are going to celebrate our 11 year anniversary in june. Since then we have had 2 other children. Yes we were young but I couldnt imagine my life without him and I would have not had it anyother way. the age to get married doesnt matter, there are people we know that are older then us and have only been married a couple years and are ready to end it

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